So much has happened in our lives since my last post, hence
my lack of blogging. In just 3 short
months of marriage, Drew and I have had more changes than most people do in years. Since my last post, we have moved, started
new jobs, merged bank accounts, started paying my oh so lovely student loans, celebrated
my 23rd birthday, changed my name on everything imaginable, written
a million thank you notes, celebrated our first Thanksgiving as Mr. & Mrs.,
and the list goes on-and-on!
Although this time in our lives has been crazy, hectic, and
exhausting – it has taught me so much about life, myself, and marriage. Here are a few things the past 3 months have
taught me:
Life happens fast.
It seems like such a short time ago
that we were in college, going dancing all the time and somehow waking up and
making it to class on time at 8 a.m.
Sleep was almost non-existent and our only real priority was having fun
- I seriously do not know how I managed to graduate, much less make decent
grades. I treasure that time in my life,
because I made the most out of every moment.
In all the hustle and bustle over the past few months, I have often
failed to seize the moment. I am learning
that life is fast, so sometimes things have to be pushed to the side, so that
we can live in the moment.
Perspective is
everything. Joy is a choice you make. Thankfulness is a choice. Being married has taught me so much about
perspective. Guys and gals – we don’t
think alike. Our perspectives are
different. I have learned that instead
of expecting, it is better to ask nicely.
I have learned that waking up and choosing to have a good day is the
first step to having a good day. I have
learned to choose to the see gifts in my husband, and to focus on those things
and recognize those things. I have
learned that in the big perspective, my “BIG” problems are so miniscule.
Life is simple, although
we tend to make life so complex.
Some of the sweetest times over the last few months have been the simplest. Sitting around the table with our families,
going on a run together, laying on the couch and watching a movie, cooking
dinner, laughing with my mom… The simplest of things are sometimes the most
filling.
Family is so precious. Drew and I have been tremendously blessed to have
the families that we have. This past
year, we had to make some very hard decisions, and each decision has been backed
with love, support, and encouragement.
I need to be
challenged. When I feel challenged,
I am an insanely productive machine; however, when I feel no challenge or
pressure, I lack enthusiasm.
Having faith is
critical. Without the realization
that life is so much bigger than you and me, life is pointless. What motivates me and inspires me come from
God, and when I am distant from him – I live a purposeless life. The hope that comes from our faith is what
has helped Drew and I motivated during this crazy phase of life.
My husband is a gift
from God. It is no secret that when
I get super-stressed, that I am not the most pleasant person to be around. This is something I am working on, but still
fail at often. Drew never fails to love
my in spite of my weaknesses, which is such a sweet reminder of the Father’s love
for us. Not only does he embrace me at
my worst, he changes my perspective. He
knows when I need him to say “Babe, stop. Calm down. Take a break.” He knows how to make me relax. Drew has this
amazing peace about him. Which at
sometimes can be so frustrating, because he no sense of urgency. However, it can be SO REFRESHING. Although it sometimes aggravates me, it is
exactly what I need. I never realized
that being calm could be such an expression of faith.
I am so thankful for lessons that have been learned the last
3 months, but so relieved to finally be able to rest and relax. It has been a while since my mind hasn’t been
preoccupied, forgot how great it feels to relax. Here is to blogging more than once in the next
3 months!
Love,
kelsey
